Assalamualaikum semua!

Its me Syasya! Happy New Year to everyone!!

Last post was 6 months ago. That was so long that I didnt update anything here :(

Busy dengan kehidupan hahah. Sya still tak percaya tahun ni Sya akan masuk 20-series. An actual adult. Korang baca blog sya dari tahun 2016 kot hahahahah.

Entahlah, kenapa ye kena membesar, rasanya baru haritu umur 17,18 now sya dah 20?! huwaaa..dah boleh kawen..hahahah..harap semua orang yang masih membaca blog-blog dekat sini sihat sihat semuanya!

Tahun lepas Sya umur 19.

Throughout the year, Sya dah listkan semua achievements, any events, and new experience yang Sya buat sepanjang tahun 2022. Sya tulis dekat phone notes je but i would like to keep it here too supaya takkan hilang hehe.  This thing was inspired by @aisyahshakirah

Here it goes, I did a lot of things too in 2022 ♡

1. I got my driver's license for both a motorcycle and a car. 🚗🛵

2. Survive another sem 4 that is just full of Ro0oLLercoAster 🚂🚞

3. Faced my fears and started driving alone

4. First time going to Pasar Seni and got my first flowers 💐💐

5. Dating with Alya at an expensive restaurant < The Qing > 🍱🍥🍘

6. Learnt to do makeup! Little bits 

7. Going back home all alone by public transport grab>ets>lrt>bus

8. Appreciating more nature lately, love to see the greens < tanam pokok durian ^^

9. Joined Colour run 2022 with sofea🎨

10. Packed my stuff and moved out and became happier. 

11. Went to my first concert ever and it was Amir Masdi 💗 someone I adore!!! His voice 4lyfe

12. Netball tournament vs courses and won first place. 🏅🏅

13. Had birthday celebration with family. Loved those moments on my B-day 🎉.

14. Staycation at Port Dickson with complete 7 members of the fam bam.

15. Managed to do drop ship and gain $$$ profits

16. Unplanned staycation at Teluk Batik with housemates withOut telling parents !!

17. What's new this year? Trying DipnDip, mee tarik, Richiamo, Sukiya, 4fingers, Kfry with friends

18. College trip to one of the coolest uni ever, AIU 🫶🏻

19. Managed to read 17 books for this year.

20. Meeting new kind souls (uhuh guess who 🧚🏻🧚🏻🧚🏻🧚🏻🧚🏻)

21. Did my first ever manicure at 19 Years Old!💅

22. Staycation at Ipoh for 2 days with ♡

23. Not a covid virgin anymore (22/5)

24. Lost my memories box to ashes (worst thing happened)

25. 1st Time Voter!! 🇲🇾 

26. Sofea taught me how to play SUDOKU (but I still sucked)

27. Impromptu trip!!! demi 2 pasang kasut💛

28. BUAT GRAB KAT KOLEJ 🚗 ☠️ 

29. Puasa penuh Ramadhan 2022 💫🫶🏻

30. Maintain Dean list for the past 4 semesters.

31. Adulting (read: being alone, grocery shopping, dealing w banks, eating alone etc)

32. Nanges 5 hari berturut 🫠 (of coz la achievement)

To end this, I'm only 19, and I have many more mistakes to make, lessons to learn, and milestones to mark. 🤍

You can't force anything honestly, and I realized that it's okay if you're the one who needs to let go, leaving a situation where you don't belong, for your own sanity. I never imagine things would happen the way they did and from there, I get to grow so much. 

And those people who were there for me, through my ups and downs, the ones I can openly rant and rely on, I love you so much. 

What have I struggled with so much this year? Definitely friendships. Oh god knows how I keep questioning "why did this happen to me" but then everything happened for a reason right? The painful truth is, you need to face things for you to move forward in life lol. Also, lesson learned. Some people just don't deserve to be called your friends. Anyway, I'm enjoying so much peace now. 

Tough year, but I'm tougher :)

Jujur Sya kata, tahun 2022 adalah tahun yang sya paling banyak menangis, diuji dengan banyak benda dan tahun yang banyak beri pengajaran for me. Also, seeing myself grow a lot this year.

Untuk tahun ni pulak, InsyaAllah Sya habis diploma, sambung degree, InsyaAllah kalau ada rezeki nak belajar di luar negara. Doakan untu Sya okay? Thank you.

Looking forward what 2023 will brings.

QOTD: Apa achievement yang korang paling bangga pulak in 2022? share la kat comment sya nak baca! ♡ 

Sincerely,

Syasya ♡

Assalamualaikum and hi ♡

It's been so long since I stopped by and look at my  blog. I missed writing, how it used to be and now I  barely remember how to write properly, I did write  journals too physically (pouring my hearts out) until I  realized I have trust issues among people around me,  and sadly I just stop writing. Too bad isn't it? should  have kept a living diary so I could re-read it back one  day and in fact, it has been a roller coaster journey of  my life right after high school ended. ohmygod I have  so much to tell to you! and is 5 am now (woke up at 3  am because hidung tersumbat, can't breathe can't sleep  huh) 

It's been so fast, im 19 now!! had my last teen  birthday celebration this month. Had this blog since  2016 I believed. That was long ago when I was 13  years old hahaha. I don't know what to write and  where to start. Maybe I should start over. Just writing  what I feel, maybe? so that I could get back into  writing and maybe improve? because I know my  writing is really bad now hahaha.

I searched for a journaling prompt to talk about so that my ideas will not dry up? at least I've got topics to talk about! and along the way, maybe I will insert more stories about my life in InsyaAllah.

If you have seen my profile picture on the right side of my blog, what kind of personality do you think I have? oh only if I could know what people think of me. Frankly speaking, I think im a shy person in real life, like if im new in a place, I don't think I could not start a conversation with anyone first.

Sometimes I do have this problem, I get so scared to interact with strangers especially when I want to buy something or in stores. is this normal? or is it anxiety? At the same time, I could be so loud with people who I am comfortable with or with my close friends. Im an ambivert which means im half both an introvert and an extrovert. Im in the middle.

I have this one friend, who is super shy around everyone, the one that is super quiet in class. imagine that, but she's not quite with me at all, she's like a 360 whole different person when she hanging out with me and I always find it so mesmerizing to get to know that side of her so I always asked her "kenapa kau dengan aku bising tapi dengan orang lain pemalu sangat?" and she said that "bersyukur la aku boleh jadi macamni bila dengan kau." hahaha she said that its because she's comfortable with me and she could be herself. it is funny but so cool. and then she said to me that im a "social butterfly" person. I blurred because I don't know what it means Ahah (now I know) said that im the one who can easily talk to. :D well, I don't know. 

I tried to be nice with people around me, but you know we are always a Lil bit harsh/clingy with people that we're closed to? that's me hoho. but generally, I think my family knows my real personality though cus im different at home too hahaha. 

I guess that's all from me today.

And how about you? what kind of personality do you have?

comment down below!

Sincerely,

Syasya♡

Assalamualaikum, hello!

Untuk episod kedua, kita akan berbincang tentang imej badan! or body image.

Imej badan bukan hanya sekadar cara kita melihat tubuh badan di depan cermin tetapi ia termasuk juga cara kita berfikir bagaimana orang lain melihat diri kita, bagaimana kita rasa tentang rupa paras diri, dan imej badan merupakan sebahagian daripada keyakinan diri.

What do you think of your body image?

Apa pula maksud imej badan positif?

Mempunyai imej badan yang positif bermaksud anda berasa selesa dengan badan anda, rasa gembira dengan perkara yang tubuh anda boleh lakukan dan anda mahu menjaga kesihatan fizikal diri.

Sya tahu sesetengah orang memang risau tentang imej tubuh badan diri, kita rasa kurang self esteem, tak gembira dengan tubuh badan yang ada, malu dengan cara orang lain lihat tubuh badan kita or worse, kita compare badan kita dengan badan orang lain, 

Imej badan sebenarnya berkait rapat dengan standard kecantikan or in English we called it beauty standards! 

Beauty standard merupakan standard yang ditetapkan oleh masyarakat dalam penilaian kecantikan dari segi fizikal. Jadi disebabkan terciptanya pelbagai jenis beauty standard di seluruh dunia, termasuklah malaysia, kita rasa pressure kena ikut that beauty standards. oh dekat Malaysia, of course setiap perempuan kena ada kulit yang putih melepak and "fair" barulah ramai suka dan nampak cantik. Betul tak? Sya rasa Sya perasan yang tulah benda yang berlaku di negara kita, terikut-ikut dengan beauty standard negara lain. (Read:Korea)  

Lepastu, banyak ya iklan pemutih kulit di media sosial yang menyebabkan remaja-remaja zaman sekarang terpengaruh nak ada kulit putih sebab akan baru diregnozid as cantik. It is actually not okay. kita patut terima warna kulit kita seadanya and love our own skin colour! Kulit sya pun, very tan since kecik and in school I played sports through all my teenage years so my skin is not fair at all. Pernah kena ejek tak? of course, I was called hitam by guys when i was in primary school and high school too, well see how the beauty standards made other people insecure about themseleves? their skin? their body?  but I really love my skin now after I realised my skin colour does not define who I am.

I remembered my favorite English teacher said this before "we should be proud to be women of color!" and I agreed.

in the end, tak kisah lah apa orang lain nak cakap tentang badan kita, we should appreciate, accept and be confidence in our own skin. I know there are people struggling with this body image, me too, im still struggling and still trying to love my own body. so let's do our best to take care of our bodies and be the best version of ourselves. YOU do you.

Body Image and Self Esteem

Untuk pemahaman yang lebih baik,

Sya kongsikan beberapa video untuk korang tengok! please watch it.

You're beautiful just the way you are! embrace your differences

sincerely,

Syasya♡

Assalamualaikum dan hello!

Kita akan mulakan siri  #GirlsTalk dengan episod pertama iaitu tentang Gender dan Seks.

Korang perasan tak, ramai sangat zaman sekarang tak faham apa sebenarnya apa maksud gender dan seks/jantina.

Apa pula Gender stereotypes?

Contohnya, kenapa orang cakap lelaki tak boleh menangis? sebab lelaki kena tunjuk yang diorang ni kuat dan kalau untuk perempuan pula, kena lemah lembut sifatnya.

ini adalah contoh Gender streotaip yang dicipta oleh masyarakat. 

Benda ni lah yang membuatkan kita fikir yang lelaki dan perempuan kena ada certain sifat-sifat yang hanya boleh ada pada jantina mereka sahaja.

This is wrong.

lelaki boleh menangis dan perempuan tak semestinya lemah lembut.

Apa yang Sya nak cerita sebenarnya ni? 

we're influenced so much because of the stereotypes that society made on how to act or do something and it changed our perspectives on how we see men and women.

Apa perbezaan Gender dan Seks?

Gender ialah streotaip yang diberikan oleh masyarakat dan boleh berubah mengikut zaman. Tanggapan gender biasanya mengikut jantina seseorang dan diberikan oleh masyarakat. Ramai disini masih keliru dan salah dimana mereka fikir gender itu adalah sama dengan jantina tetapi tidak. Jantina ialah seks kita iaitu sama ada lelaki atau perempuan. 

contohnya, cara berpakaian, sikap dan tingkah laku seperti yang sya cerita dia atas.

Apa itu seks?

Seks/Jantina ialah perbezaan biologi di antara lelaki dan wanita dari segi struktur tulang, kromosom, hormon, alat kelamin dan sebagainya.

Contohnya, hanya wanita yang boleh melahirkan dan menyusukan anak. 

isu dia pada zaman sekarang, impak gender stereotaip ini banyak ke arah buruk yang boleh menyebabkan keyakinan seseorang menurun kerana meletakkan seseorang dia bawah sesuatu persepsi yang kita fikirkan. Stereotaip  dapat menyebabkan seseorang menjalani kehidupan yang didorong oleh kebencian, dan boleh menyebabkan mangsa-mangsa stereotaip itu didorong oleh rasa takut.

Bahkan, gender streotaip ini telah menjadi norma dalam masyarakat sejak kanak-kanak lagi seperti lelaki tidak boleh menyukai warna pink kerana ianya adalah warna bersifat feminim dan kanak-kanak perempuan hanya boleh bermain dengan anak patung ketika kecil.

Realitinya, Sya rasa semua orang pernah berdepan dengan situasi gender streotype ni, mungkin kita tidak sedar yang perkataan dan perbuatan yang dilakukan merupakan gender stereotaip yang mungkin pernah meyakiti perasaan orang lain. huwaaaaa.

Sya pernah lalui sendiri, dan pernah lihat dan dengar cerita daripada ramai kawan-kawan yang penat hadap benda ni sampai gender streotaip ni dah biasa dalam keluarga pun. Contohnya, yang ramai adik beradik tapi hanya si kakak yang kena buat semua kerja rumah seperti memasak,mengemas,lipat baju, iron baju, yang si adik beradik lelaki? tak buat apa-apa macam raja di rumah. bila disuruh tolong, katanya "kerja perempuan" it is what the teenagers are faced now. and the parents? had the same mentality. 

An article about gender stereotypes > How Gender Stereotypes Kills a Woman

Untuk pemahaman yang lebih baik, Sya akan kongsi beberapa video mengenai topik ini, jom kita tengok sama-sama!

Make sure tengok untuk lebih faham ya! 

Sya harap perkongsian harini bermanfaat untuk semua! Sya dengan terbuka hati untuk terima teguran dan discussion/pendapat rakan-rakan blogger di ruangan komen!

Let's educate ourselves and be a better person/friend/sister/brother/parent in the future.

question: have you ever encountered any gender stereotypes? Just comment down below and lets begin our discussions! Sya pun nak tahu berapa ramai orang yang pernah kena? adakah perempuan sahaja yang selalu kena gender stereotaip ni?

QOTD : Now semua dah faham perbezaan gender dan seks yang selalu orang salah faham?

There is no limit to what we, as women can accomplish

Sincerely, 

Syasya♡